Dare to Live – Part I – The Vision

September 7, 2010

Many of us grew up being regularly dared! We were dared to take our first plunge in the sea, we were dared by our classmates to do something naughty at school and we have probably been dared by friends to ‘adventure’ outside one of our comfort zones. However, on the face of it, ‘daring to live’ would seem to be a somewhat uninspiring possibility. Are we not already living? Yes we are but are we living our life to the full? If we are not and we know we are not then what’s getting in the way of living wholeheartedly? Why might there be some and perhaps many areas of our life only receiving half our heart?

To answer such an introspective questions for our self it’s probably useful to get a sense of what living fully, living to ‘the max’, as some say, would look like and feel like. Then it may become clearer exactly what is sabotaging and blocking our capacity to live with gusto, with an unfettered freedom of spirit which no one and nothing can hinder.
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ⓒ Mike George 2009


Do YOU Know Love?

August 16, 2010

There are four common confusions about LOVE which most of us will assimilate at an early age. They are innocently passed down from generation to generation, strengthened and magnified by Hollywood in particular and by marketing in general. They are built into our language and our culture and yet they only serve to take us further from love as they create stress within our self and conflict within our relationships.어렸을 때부터 우리들 대다수는 흔히 네 가지를 사랑인 양 헷갈려서 배운다. 악의 없이 순진하게 그 혼동을 세대에서 다음 세대로 물려주는 동안에 그것은 더 강화되었고, 특히 할리우드 영화에 의해서, 그리고 일반적으로는 마케팅에 의해 최대로 부풀려졌다. 그것은 우리 언어와 문화에 침투해 자리잡았으며, 결과적으로 우리 내면에 스트레스를 더욱 확대 생산함으로써 우리를 사랑에서 더 멀리 떼어놓고 관계에서 갈등만 만들어내는 데 기여했다.
1 Love is mistaken for DESIRE 욕망과 혼동된 사랑 When you go to the movies and watch the classic love story there is usually a moment when he says to her, “Darling, I love you.” But what he really ‘means’ is, “I want you. I want to be with you. I want you to be mine…tonight!”. And of course she reciprocates with an, “I love you too.” Which often means, “I’ve got you!” But true love doesn’t desire or possess. True love doesn’t want anything. Authentic love is already complete and its only intention is to connect and to give, not acquire.
영화를 보러 가서 전형적인 연애 이야기를 지켜보노라면 대략 남자 주인공이 여자 주인공에게 “자기야, 사랑해” 라고 말하는 순간이 있기 마련이다. 그러나 그가 정말로 하는 말은 “나는 너를 원한다. 당신과 같이 있고 싶다. 오늘밤 내 것이 되어주길 바란다!” 라는 뜻이다. 물론 여자도 역시 “저도 당신 사랑해요”라고 화답한다. 이 말은 종종 “이제 넌 내 꺼야!”란 뜻이다. 하지만 진실한 사랑은 원하거나 소유하려는 것이 아니다. 참된 사랑은 아무 것도 원하지 않는다. 진정한 사랑은 이미 완전하며, 얻고자 함이 아닌, 연결하고 주려는 의도뿐이다.
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Are YOU a Victim, a Student or a Master?

July 29, 2010

Life means change and change signifies the flowing and flowering nature of life. Life, like a river, is always on the move. Unfortunately we tend to learn that we have to ‘damn’ the river as we try to stop the flow and ‘hold on’ to a) the way things are and b) what we think we have acquired from the river. This is known as the ‘Damn It!’ philosophy of change management! A few will learn to practice the ‘Judo’ philosophy, continuously letting go of the old so that they can welcome and ‘embrace the new’, thereby creating ways to flow with and not against the river of life. 

Do YOU fear change? Are you practicing the Damn It! philosophy? Do you find yourself resisting people and situations? Any form of resistance anywhere, anytime, means you fear change. It means you ‘believe’ you are about to lose something, as any kind of fear is always the sign of ‘imagined’ future loss. The eight most common things that people fear losing when their resistance starts to show up are in the areas of position, power, pay, possessions, people, prestige, privileges or personality.

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ⓒ Mike George 2009
글쓴이: Mike George(www.relax7.com)

The Sound of Silence

June 9, 2010

The Sound of Silence   “Everybody should have his personal sounds to listen for- sounds that will make him exhilarated and alive or quiet and calm. One of the greatest sounds of them all- and to me it is a sound – is utter, complete silence.” Andre Kostelanetz

If ever there was an oxymoron (contradiction in terms) it is found in the phrase ‘sound of silence’.  And yet, if you ask anyone who has been practicing meditation for some time they will tell you that it’s as if, in silence, there is a kind of sound. The silence that they refer to is of course the silence ‘within’ the self, and the sound is more like an awareness, a feeling, of the sweetness and power of ones own being. By many accounts the ‘sound of silence’ can have the effect of altering ones perceptions and perspectives so profoundly that life and living are never quite the same again. When the self resides in the silence of just being, where all ‘doing’, including thinking, has temporarily ceased, there is a profound sense of the unlimitedness of the self and it’s from there that everything else appears as it really is; small, limited and almost insignificant.

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ⓒ Mike George 2009 
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In Which Mode Do YOU Operate? 당신의 운영 모드는?

May 18, 2010


In Which Mode Do YOU Operate? 당신의 운영 모드는?
If you look back on your average day you will likely notice that you frequently oscillate between two modes – resistance and acceptance. For many people it’s a classic 80/20 where 80% of their time is spent in some form of resistance to something or someone. For some, on some days, it will feel more like 99/1. And for a few it’s 10/90. For most of us it’s probably somewhere in between. What we don’t often notice however, is that it’s our urge towards resistance, even if it’s just at a mental level, that is the cause of our day-to-day stress. It’s not what others, or the world, are doing that makes us move into a mode of resistance it’s our reaction, which is based on our judgment of them.

We live in a world where the influences of the media ensure we are well schooled in the art of RESISTANCE. Battles fought and won are glorified to such an extent we prefer to avoid a possible resolution prior to battle so that we may bask in a glorious victory. At the heart of politics, sport, business and even religion there can be found an ‘encouragement’ towards resistance. And yet, on reflection, it becomes fairly obvious that resistance is an unenlightened way to live. Here is why! 


ⓒ Mike George 2009
글쓴이: Mike George(www.relax7.com)
번역제공: 한국브라마쿠마리스협회(www.bkkorea.org)

Finding Balance or Being Centred – What’s the Difference?

January 4, 2010

Finding Balance or Being Centred – What’s the Difference?
균형 찾기와 중심에 있기, 그 차이는 무엇인가?

Do you feel you are living a balanced life? Do you believe you have your priorities right? Is your work interfering with your life or is your life interfering with your work? During this last decade in particular much has been said and written, many courses devised and delivered, on how to achieve that apparently elusive vision of a work/life balance. Some believe they are being forced to work too much at the cost of their relationships with family and friends, while others consciously sacrifice almost all their relationships in favour of work work work! Driven by ambition, sometimes as a defence against insecurity, or a way of avoiding certain ‘other issues’ in their life, it may be months or years before they realise they are exhausting themselves in pursuit of something they can never achieve i.e. self fulfillment and a happy life solely through action.
귀하는 균형 잡힌 삶을 살고 있다고 느끼는지? 자신에게 중요한 순위에 따라 잘 하고 있다고 믿는지? 일 때문에 인생에 지장이 오거나, 또는 삶이 직무에 방해 되는지? 특히 최근 10년 간, 직업과 삶 사이의 균형 잡힌 시각을 얻는다는, 지극히 어렵고 미묘한 방법에 관해 말도 많았고, 글도 많이 쓰여졌으며, 강좌도 많이 개발되어 제공되었다. 일부 어떤 이들은 너무 많이 일하도록 강요된 나머지 그 대가로 가족과 친구 등의 관계를 희생한다고 여기고, 또 다른 이들은 오로지 일, 일, 일을 위해 거의 모든 관계를 의식적으로 희생시킨다! 야심에 사로잡혀서, 더러는 불확실성에 대한 대비책으로, 또는 인생의 ‘다른 문제’ 들을 회피하는 수단으로 그들 자신을 혹사시키고 있다는 사실, 결코 성취할 수 없는 어떤 것, 즉 자아실현이나 행복한 삶을, 오직 행위를 통해서만 성취하려고 스스로를 혹사하고 있다는 것을 깨닫기까지 몇 달이고 몇 년이고 걸릴 수 있다.
Then there are those who have little ambition in the world of work but who learn to live with a quiet sense of guilt or a feeling of inadequacy while surrounded by workaholics and ambition addicts. “There must be something wrong with me”, they think. Until one day they realise, “There might be something right with me”!
그런가 하면 직업세계에 관해 거의 야심이 없는 이들로서, 일 중독자들과 야심중독자들에 둘러싸인 채 혼자서 죄책감을 느끼거나 또는 자기만 적응하지 못하고 있다는 느낌을 지닌 채 조용히 살아가는 법을 배우는 이들도 있다. 그들은 “아무래도 난 뭔가 좀 잘못된 게 틀림없어”라고 생각한다. 그러다 어느 날인가 그들은 “어쩌면 어떤 면에선 내가 옳은 것 같기도 해!” 라고 깨닫는다.
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An excerpt from The Power of Discipline

December 22, 2009

THE SEVEN-STEP FORMULA FOR ACHIEVING GOALS: There are seven simple steps you can follow to set and achieve goals. There are more complex and detailed goal-achieving methodologies, but the Seven Step Method will enable you to accomplish ten times more than you have ever accomplished before, and far faster than you can imagine.

(1) Decide exactly what you want. Be specific. If you want to increase your income, decide upon a specific amount of money rather than just “make more money.”

 (2) Write it down. A goal that is not in writing is like smoke; it drifts away and disappears. It is unsubstantial and useless. It has no force, effect or power. But a written goal becomes something that you can touch, read and modify if necessary.

 (3) Set a deadline for your goal. Pick a reasonable time period and write down the rate at which you want to achieve it. If it is a big goal, set a final deadline and then set sub-deadlines or interim steps between where you are today and where you want to be in the future. A deadline serves as a “forcing system.” Just as you often get more done when you are under the pressure of a specific deadline, your subconscious mind works faster and more efficiently when you have decided that you want to achieve a goal by a specific time. The rule is: “There are no unrealistic goals; there are only unrealistic deadlines.” What do you do if you don’t achieve your goal by your deadline? Simple. You set another deadline. A deadline is a “guestimate.” Sometimes you will achieve your goal before the deadline, sometimes on the deadline, and sometimes after the deadline.

(4) Make a list of everything you can think of that you could possibly do to achieve your goal. Henry Ford said, “The biggest goal can be accomplished if you break it down into enough small steps.” Make a list of the obstacles and difficulties you will have to overcome, both external and internal, to achieve your goal. Make a list of the additional knowledge and skills you will require to achieve your goal. Make a list of the people whose cooperation and support you will require to achieve your goal.Make a list of everything you can think of that you will have to do, and then add to this list as new tasks and responsibilities occur. Keep writing until your list is complete.
Napoleon Hill once said, “The most common reason that people fail to achieve their goals is because they do not make new plans to replace the old ones when the situation changes.”

(5) Organize the list by both sequence and priority.
A list of activities organized by sequence requires that you determine what you need to do first, what you need to do second, and what you need to do later on.
A list organized by priority enables you to determine what is more important and what is less important.
Sometimes sequence and priority are the same, but often they are not. For example, if you want to start a particular kind of business, the first item in order of sequence might be purchasing a book or enrolling in a course on the type of business.
But what is most important is your ability to develop a business plan based on complete market research. This will provide the information needed to gather the appropriate resources to launch the business.

(6) Take action on your plan immediately. The difference between winners and losers in life is simply that winners take the first step. They are action-oriented. They’re willing to take action with no guarantee of success. They’re willing to face failure and disappointment. But they’re always willing to take action.

(7) Do something every day that moves you in the direction of your major goal. This is the key behavior that will guarantee your success. Seven days a week, 365 days a year, do something, do anything that moves you at least one step closer to the goal that is most important to you at the time.
When you do something every day toward the direction of your goal, you develop momentum. This momentum, this sense of forward motion, motivates you, inspires you and energizes you. As you gain momentum, it is easier to take even more steps toward your goal. In no time at all, you will have developed the discipline of setting and achieving your goals. It soon becomes easy and automatic. You develop the habit and the discipline of working towards your goals all the time.

An excerpt from The Power of Discipline
by Brian Tracy

Why ME Why HERE Why NOW? – Part II 왜 지금 여기서 나에게? –제2부

June 23, 2009

In the last article we explored Why ME and used the simplest of questions to investigate who exactly is ‘the me’ that says ‘why me’!
지난 번 우리는 왜 나에게 에 대해 탐구했는데, 조사방법은 ‘왜 나에게’라고 말하는 ‘내’가 누구인가 하는, 가장 간단한 질문을 이용하는 것이었다.

The process by which we realize our true identity is one that requires the ‘noticing’ of all the ‘things’ that we learn to identify with but are in ‘truth’ not us. This can be a lengthy process of elimination in terms of corporeal time, or it can be an almost instantly induced realization of the ‘I’ that says I am. In both instances meditation and contemplation tend to be the ‘traditional’ methods. However, we live in a world with a thousand voices all trying to convince us to identify with something we are not, and it’s easy to forget our self even once we have tasted that deeper sense of who we are! Hence the need to remember and the effort to remind our self about our self! The value of this process is only fully appreciated when it is clearly seen that any and all our unhappiness, suffering, stress and conflict are always due to one thing, and that is not being aware of our authentic self i.e. not BEING our authentic self. 우리의 진정한 정체성을 깨닫는 과정은 우리 자신들과 동일시하도록 배운 모든 ‘것들’이 ‘실제로는’ 우리가 아니라는 사실을 ‘알아차리는’ 것을 요구한다. 이 과정은 상당히 긴 물리적인 시간을 요할 수도 있지만, 나는 존재한다, 라고 말하는 ‘내’가 누구인가 하는 깨달음을 거의 일순간에 유발할 수도 있다. 두 경우에 모두 ‘전통적인’ 방법으로 명상과 사색이 활용되는 경향이 있다. 그렇지만 천 개도 넘는 목소리들이 우리 아닌 다른 것과 우리를 동일시하게끔 설득하려고 난리를 치는 세상에 살고 있다 보니, 우리가 누구인지를 한번 깊이 맛본 후에도, 우리 자신을 잊기가 쉽다. 그래서 우리 자신을 기억하고, 또 자신에게 우리가 누구인지를 일깨워주는 노력이 필요한 것이다! 우리가 느끼는 불행, 괴로움, 스트레스, 갈등 등 어느 것이나, 또 그것들 전부가, 언제나 한 가지에 기인하는데, 그건 우리의 진정한 자아를 인식하지 못하기 때문에, 즉 우리가 진정한 우리 자아로 존재하지 않기 때문이며, 오직 이 사실을 분명히 볼 때에만 이 과정이 지니는 가치를 완전히 제대로 식별할 수 있다.

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글쓴이: Mike George(www.relax7.com)
번역제공: 한국브라마쿠마리스협회
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Which Path Are You Walking? – Part I 당신은 어떤 길을 걷고 계십니까? 제1부

May 4, 2009

Are you walking the right path? Some say there is a pathway through life that will take you to the right destination. Some call it a spiritual path based on self-realisation. Others see it as a religious path based on faith, and a yet others say it is just a human path based on right values. Path in this sense implies there will be an arrival, a destination that is defined by the reward of freedom, happiness and goodness, and the recognition that you walked the ‘right’ path i.e. you lived your life the ‘right’way.

And then there are some who say there is only ‘one’ right path. It’s their way or no way! They spend much time in attempting to convince others to follow in their footsteps, otherwise they say, “There will be trouble ahead”!  And then there are those who say life has no path. They believe that ‘real’ life is simply living from day to day and from moment to moment. They say that life happens in a pathless land, so forget all about ‘finding your path’ and just get on with it…they say!

And then there are those who say that we are here to carve our own path, plow our own furrow, and like the white water behind a boat we leave our own unique wake. They are convinced there is no one right way, just the way you ‘create’ as you go. This ‘can’ sound ‘righter’ than the others as it seems to honor the two callings or imperatives already present within us all. First our creative capacity, whereby true creativity is based on how we live our life, which means how we respond to people and situations around us. The second is an innate awareness of what is true, of how to act and how to create the right actions in alignment with our truth. And when we act in alignment with our truth then the way forward opens up smoothly and we are in harmony with ourselves and with the world around us. Sometimes this is called ‘flow’.  When we act against the current of what is true then there is a ‘jarring’, an awkwardness, things do not proceed smoothly, and we ‘feel’ something is not quite right.

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글쓴이: Mike George(www.relax7.com)

50 Things You Can Control Right Now

May 1, 2009

CNN reports that psychic businesses are thriving in this challenging economy—and the clientele has expanded to include more business professionals who are worried about their financial future. According to Columbia Business School’s Professor Gita Johar who studies consumer behavior, the greatest motivation for visiting a psychic is to feel a sense of control.

Honestly, I get the allure; I’ve had my share of readings. Nonetheless, this article got my thinking. Sure, there are lots of things we can’t control: businesses may fold, stocks may plummet, relationships may end…The list is infinite, really. Wouldn’t we be far more effective if we focused on all things we can control instead; if we stopped worrying about the indefinite and started benefiting from the guaranteed?

Right now you can control:

  1. How many times you smile today.
  2. How much effort you exert at work.
  3. Your level of honesty.
  4. How well you prepare.
  5. How you act on your feelings.
  6. How often you say “thank you.”
  7. When you pull out your wallet for luxuries.
  8. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.
  9. How you interpret situations.
  10. Whether or not you compete with people around you.
  11. How often you notice and appreciate small acts of kindness—they’re everywhere!
  12. Whether you listen or wait to talk.
  13. When you walk away from a conversation.
  14. How nice you are to yourself in your head.
  15. Whether you think positive or negative thoughts.
  16. Whether or not you form expectations of people.
  17. The type of food you eat.
  18. When you answer someone’s question—or email or call.
  19. How much time you spend worrying.
  20. How many new things you try.
  21. How much exercise you get.
  22. How many times you swear in traffic.
  23. Whether or not you plan for the weather.
  24. How much time you spend trying to convince people you’re right.
  25. How often you think about your past.
  26. How many negative articles you read.
  27. The attention you give to your loved ones when you see them.
  28. How much you enjoy the things you have right now.
  29. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.
  30. How clean or cluttered you keep your space.
  31. What books you read.
  32. How well you network at social events.
  33. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.
  34. How many times you admit you don’t know something—and then learn something new.
  35. How often you use your influence to help people instead of focusing on building your influence.
  36. When you ask for help.
  37. Which commitments you keep and cancel.
  38. How many risks you take.
  39. How creative/innovative you are in your thinking.
  40. How clear you are when you explain your thoughts.
  41. Whether you formulate a new plan or act on your existing one.
  42. How much information you get before you make a decision.
  43. How much information you share with people.
  44. Whether you smoke or drink (unless you’re an alcoholic, in which case I am not qualified to offer you advice.)
  45. Whether or not you judge other people.
  46. Whether you smell good or bad (unless you have some strange resistance to soap and deodorant).
  47. How much of what other people say you believe.
  48. How quickly you try again after you fall.
  49. How many times you say “I love you.”
  50. How much rest you get at night.